When you visit a new city or country for the first time, it helps to have a guidebook. It’s no different in Second Life, except that things change so quickly that something you read about in a book may have moved or even gone by the time you get there.
However, it’s worth checking out a couple of books (currently available from Amazon, for example) because not only do they point you at places that you might otherwise miss (and will allow you to impress your friends by taking them there, because they missed them too), but in addition you’ll get a feel for the history of the place and how to learn the ropes of living in a metaverse as stunning and diverse as ours.
First is Second Life: The Official Guide (several authors): a comprehensive though already slightly outdated reference with a great deal of insight and information – the vast majority of which is still completely relevant and useful. Some things may have changed or gone, but you’ll find plenty of detail here and it’s profusely illustrated and in colour throughout. Critics may find the book a little self-serving and stuffy: ignore them. It includes a useful CD of free stuff – some, but by no means all, of which can be found on the Second Life web site, like templates for designing your own clothes (a very good idea in my view).
More irreverent, smaller (it fits nicely in a jacket pocket), cheaper and with less, but more-up-to-date information is The Unofficial Tourists’ Guide to Second Life by Paul Carr and Graham Pond. This neat little work inevitably overlaps the larger work quite a bit, but it also includes information you won’t find in the official guide. If you want to buy only one of these two books, this is it.
In addition I would recommend new residents to check the forums at the Second Life website. In particular, check out the advice for “newbies” and see how to give yourself a look that is entirely your own and not a Linden Labs cookie-cutter avi (though they are apparently a lot better than they used to be) that screams “noob” to all the attractive avatars out there who therefore ignore your romantic advances.
My own list of top tips would include the following:
0. Be nice to people. Do as you would be done by. Can’t emphasise that enough. In addition, if you are man, you will find that a sense of romance and chivalry will take you far in building relationships (just as in real life).
1. Look in the Library in your Inventory. You will find all kinds of amazing things there. Spend a while going through them, at your local sandbox if necessary (you may need to rezz some things on the ground to look inside them so you need a sandbox, your own land, or somewhere else where it’s allowed).
2. Get your hair fixed. The Appearance system allows you to make quite a good hairdo but it’s nothing compared to flexible prim-based hair that drifts as you move and has colour and texture beyond the dreams of Appearance sliders. You can buy cool hair at many, many locations in-world – I particularly recommend Pazazz. There are some vendors who sell prim hair to new residents at very low prices – I bought some early on and I personally didn’t like it, but you may.
3. Get an AO. That’s an Animation Override and overlays some of the things your avi does naturally with smoother, more expressive animations for walking, sitting, jumping, flying and landing instead of the often jerky ones you arrived with. Get one with a HUD (Head Up Display) so you can simply click to turn it off if necessary: some dance, sitting and, er, other animations (for example in poseballs) don’t work as well if you have an AO on (because they are essentially one themselves).
4. Get a shape and a skin. These often go together and professionally designed can be quite expensive. I believe that spending money on your appearance is worth your while in any world, and again there are loads of vendors. The shape is the shape of your avatar (which may not be human incidentally, though you probably want to have one that is: a friend of mine is a good-looking woman most of the time, but when she’s dancing she has been known to appear as a flashy and expressive flying robot), and the skin gives you colour and shading and possibly body and/or facial hair if that’s your style.
5. Take your time. This actually should be #1. Think about everything you do. I didn’t in some areas, and I made at least one serious and dramatic mistake (plus I probably spent rather more L$ than I needed to). Think about it before you buy expensive things. Pace yourself in relationships and don’t rush into commitments emotional or otherwise – that’s really important as it all happens so fast – and you can break something in a moment too, as well as making a commitment you later regret.
6. Have fun.
And I hope you find these suggestions useful.